I have multiple personalities.
All these voices.
The business woman
Everyone has multiple personalities.
We pull out what we need when we have to.
Plays to the imagination what sort of character we want to be.
We design our life, the material world is the sphere of self-expression.
Businesses try to reach levels of customer experiences. Designers thrive for the ultimate user experience. Traveler chase experiences in far-away countries. But what’s the deal with experiences really? I ask some of my Snappers (or do you call them Snapchatters), about experiences. @theylovetaylora sees experiences as something that happened before, something that can be found in the everyday life. @kaitlin_101 explains that an experience can be something bad or good but usually affects you and your decisions later in life. They can either be wonderful memories or life lessons.
In its core, experiences seem to be the thing where we feel most alive. It’s a moment when we don’t want to be anywhere else. Often we forget that the word experience vibrates not solely on the positive spectrum. We crave experiences but remain unsure of its central definition. Always. For some, the experience is something new and unfamiliar which leaves them constantly on the look-out for experience dressed in spontaneity, surprise, and immediacy. Amassing experiences, you will inevitably learn they’re not enough, and never will be enough.
How to experience every moment fully?
This is where Mr. Greif comes in, a mysterious man I’ve never met but whose words have caused a curious shift in how I changed my perspective regarding experiences. He recognizes experiences as being directly attainable. It is definite and cumulative, where happiness is ambiguous and pleasures evanescent. That’s probably why it’s such a buzzword at this time in space. Even where life appears to be lived for happiness, it is lived by and through experience.
Travel becomes the main new experience people remember when sex and intoxication stop being authoritative. While traveling somewhere else, you can simulate to yourself. The downside of sought-after experiences is usually that they end. The traveler goes from learning to categorizing: he has seen so much of the world that every town is reminiscent of another.
Experience tries to evade the disappointment of this world by adding peaks to it. Life becomes a race against time and a contest you try to win. Aestheticism and perfectionism make a modern attempt to transcend this world by a more intense attention to it – every day in every situation. Greif argues that the best-known idea about aestheticism is that you’ll make your life a work of art. Perfectionism understands life as the work of making yourself.
If only we can manage to look at each moment as a piece of art which offers the opportunity to embrace the new and unfamiliar because isn’t it true, each moment is slightly different? There is beauty everywhere they say and if we put our hand to our heart, deep down we know it’s true. You send one Instagrammer to a location and another, and depending on his inner eye, he will find that certain type of beauty even if a place looks like the most boring place on the earth to another. Your own experiences open a door into the inside feeling of somebody else’s life.
The need to retell.
The last means to redeem experience.
Otherwise aimless, pure accumulation.
Find a listener or realize that you are mute.
Unfit to communicate the colors of the distant realm of experience.
Personal wonders, everyone longs to tell stories.
Today, but not in literature.
Greif says memory floats you back to days that will never be repeated, letting you know you didn’t appreciate experiences when they occurred. Let’s break down the collective into the elements, understand the different groups of people. Travelers chase after unknown cultures, fashionistas the new version of the self. Food aficionados apparently live for mixing up certain types of ingredients but that could also be the argument of the painter.
The attempt to make our lives not a waste, by seeking a few most remarkable incidents, will make the rest of our lives a waste. The #ConceptOfExperience turns us into dwellers in a plateau village who hold on to a myth of the happier race of people who live on the peaks. We climb up occasionaly, but only with preparation, for short expeditions. We can't stay there, and everyone is restless and unsatisfied at home. | #MarkGreif in @nplusonemag #2005
The human capacities for thought and desire are always excessive. We can imagine everything as other than it is. The only way beyond, to something that truly rewards the extent of our minds, is not up and away, but in and onto. To read more, see the book below.
Book: Against Everything – On Dishonest Times
Author: Mark Greif
Chapter: The Concept of Experience
You are strong and courageous and brilliant.
Alles steht Kopf. Ich sehe uns für immer tanzen.
PS: Photographs via 321goooo